No Likes, No Problem

So, you have over 300 likes on your Facebook post, I’m not really impressed and you shouldn’t be either. It may sound a little harsh but to be honest before social media did you ever have 300 people text or call you with a congratulations or to check in to see how you were doing? My guess is no. I know you’re thinking that’s why we have these social media outlets… to keep in touch, but is it? Sure, they liked your post but that’s typically where it stops. Do we have social media to explore media friendships and pretend we care about what people ate yesterday, there is nothing real life about that. This may not be a popular topic and might make people feel like I am judging, but hear me out.

I don’t want to say it’s all fake but really those likes don’t define you and I’m sorry, but it doesn’t make you a super person or a super friend. I’m also not saying people who are “social media popular” aren’t actually good people but trust me their are some who aren’t, I’ve seen it. I’ve seen posts that get so much attention just because people think that if they follow that person and like all their posts down to the picture of their new throw pillows, that they are super close BFF’s. Think about this, I could post about how I adopted a child, asked for help to feed homeless people, or that I achieved a life long goal of completing a marathon and get 16 likes and 3 comments (I’m not saying that as an actual event or statistic but just to give you an idea of my point.) This is where it becomes a joke, how can you be “friends” with someone and publicly share an achievement on your wall and you get crickets… then you see them like another persons picture of a plant, it’s obvious they aren’t there for the real shit.

Truthfully, the only time anyone floods my feed with likes or comments is when it has to do with my husband, kind of strange but maybe they like him better than me.. (haha). It’s weird to think that social media participation is taken somewhat semi serious by some. I’m not discouraging anyone from liking things that they actually think is funny, motivational, or that they truly appreciate. I enjoy the people who recognize me and the cool things I post about my kids or funny things that happen from time to time but I also know that it was done nonchalantly as one scrolls through the book of faces, which is truly what it is- a book of faces, without the real life. It can’t be taken serious or personal because some people use it as an outlet to escape their real life. I’m not sitting here saying that I am on strike from participating in social media shenanigans but just here to say if you’re the one who thinks everyone loves you based off of the information you share on Twitter or Facebook, maybe check yourself at the door. On the flip side if you are one questioning why your post about curing cancer got no attention, it’s because that makes you better than someone else on some level and let’s be honest, some people have a complex about the possibility of people doing better than them, and heaven forbid they give that an extra “like.”

The point is, it is actually eye opening to see how many “friends” you can have and at least 100 of them never interact with you through whatever social media app you’re using. You always recognize the ones who are happy for your success and cheer you on, but then you also realize the ones who are probably there scrolling and rolling their eyes at your posts. So basically when it comes to Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram just take it all with a grain of salt, it means nothing when it comes to who someone is or isn't. Keep the real shit coming.